Authentic - Be-You-tiful. (The last part of the series)
Every season has a catchphrase…
The word 'authentic' has been buzzing lately. You hear phrases like, 'I like your authenticity,' and 'People like it when you are vulnerable.' There is so much talk about authenticity, but what does it mean?
Judging from how we use 'authentic' in catchphrases, people seek originality and vulnerability—two factors required to connect, build relationships, and trust.
We live in a time where flawless reality (a Cinderella story) is prevalent to remain relevant. Social media has enabled a make-believe world where people act out a script, and everyone is royalty—un style de vie de star. Therefore, when a person decides to share or show the non-glamorous sides of their lives, we connect and applaud because someone dared to tell the stories and secrets we timidly hide in our closets for fear of being judged or seen as less dazzling. Ironically, using vulnerability as a 'connect with the crowd' strategy has become mainstream, making it more challenging to differentiate facts from fiction. Sigh!
According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, authentic means 'real, factual, and true to one's personality or character.' While it is easy to call facts and actual events authentic, the part that focuses on being true to one's personality or character seems vague, and I will tell you why.
Personality is a set of behavioral traits and characteristics; it is complex and unique to the individual. Conversely, it is dynamic and can adapt and evolve. This means we can change our personalities to suit our diverse roles. It is possible to have one personality at work and another at home. People can have multiple personalities associated with their various roles. For example, 'public figures' can adopt personalities that align with the core of what they represent, but it doesn't mean that is who they are when the curtains are down.
Essentially, we are chameleons and can adapt to survive. We can reinvent ourselves and become better versions. Becoming a better version is laudable, but is the better version authentic or an act? Is it real or created?
Authenticity isn't a simple definition; it is complicated and sometimes used loosely. The missing link is 'identity,' without which you can achieve genuine authenticity.
So, who are you? And if you were to have a soul-searching conversation with God about your identity, what would it be?
In conclusion, authenticity is the ability to reveal one's identity irrespective of what is at stake. It brings peace and contentment.
As a new year approaches, find time to rediscover and love yourself. You are the original; no one else is like you, not even your identical twin. Also, remember that people will treat you the way you treat yourself. So, treat yourself with care, love, tenderness, kindness, and respect in the new year, and be intentional about it.
You are wholesome; you are "Be-You-tiful."