Processing Transitions

I wish someone had prepared me for the emotional turmoil of leaving a long-held job. I thought I had it all ticked off and was looking forward to my next career phase. I wrongly assumed the next role would be as easily secured as the previous one. What I experienced was the reverse. Finding my next job took a long time, and I nearly lost myself in the process.

I had experienced a rollercoaster of emotions, from denial to a depressive state, and all between them. The daily performance of hiding my feelings was more draining than the emotional upheaval.

Transitions evoke a range of emotions; recognizing these emotions is crucial for embracing the change. Without facing reality, you may struggle to let go of the past; without letting go of the past, you may not fully explore and engage in future opportunities.

Let me assure you that your feelings are justified, and vulnerability is acceptable. Allow yourself some time to process your emotions. Expect to feel shock, denial, anger, fear, anxiety, uncertainty, or depression. These are common (negative) emotions. Each emotion is a stage that people often experience when going through a change process or a substantial loss. Yes, you read that right. With transitions come both losses and gains. With these gifts of emotions, we can come to terms with reality, grieve the loss, and move forward into the next phase.

What emotions are you feeling right now, and how are you managing them?

Take a moment to reflect on your current emotions. Identify what it is, acknowledge it, and assure yourself that it is a phase that will pass, because it inevitably will.

It is time you got up and faced the emotions.

In my next post, we will explore ways to manage our emotions through transitions. Until then, be kind to yourself, and remember to exhale.

To new chapters and bold transitions,

Tolu Rogers, Ph.D.

Career & Life Transition Coach | Helping you navigate transitions with clarity, confidence, and purpose.